5 Reasons Why Independent Women Attract Emotionally Unavailable Men

It’s the same story every time. A beautiful, strong woman falls for a man who gives her everything except the most important thing—love.

The truth is, emotionally unavailable men don’t choose strong women—strong women choose them.

Why?

1. They see them as convenient

When they choose emotionally unavailable men, they choose them for a reason. And that is that as long as they are with them, they can rest assured that these men won’t question their authority.

They won’t do anything to compromise their power. These men don’t have the guts to do it. They won’t stand up to them and they won’t question their decisions. They will go with the flow every time.

2. They think these men aren’t risky

Meaning, they are safe with them. They won’t get hurt, they are too strong for that. But what they don’t see is that love sneaks up on them, blinds them and they end up getting hurt either way.

Independent women promise themselves they won’t become the girl who is waiting by the phone, waiting for him to call her back. They promise themselves they won’t wait around or suffer for anyone.

3. Although deep down, they want emotional security

None of them will admit it because it seems like they are weak. There is nothing weak about wanting to be loved. But usually, it makes them feel vulnerable and therefore exposed to maybe getting hurt.

Deep inside, strong women really want and need compassion and unconditional love but they choose emotionally unavailable men, men who are distant and incapable of showing what they feel because it seems safer for them. It seems like they aren’t getting hurt.

4. They know emotionally unavailable men will keep their distance

Strong women are so good at pretending everything is okay. They will put on their ‘I don’t give a shit’ face and keep calm when they are on the verge of breaking down. They build emotional walls around them to protect themselves.

They treat this man the same way. They always have a serious face on because that way the man won’t get close to her. He will keep his distance.

5. They choose them because it’s easier

They value their ability to keep everything under control. And if loneliness is the price to pay, they will seal the deal.

They choose these men because they know they won’t get emotionally involved and they won’t question their abilities or their authority.

There is nothing worse for a strong woman than compromising, letting their partner see their vulnerable side and mutual decision-making.