5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

If you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship, you know how easy it can be to get stuck in rut in your sex life. Well, the same thing happens in the lifelong sexual relationship we have with ourselves!

So often, we condition ourselves to climax from one type of self-stimulation, and we stick to it religiously. While that can certainly be a reliable way to get the job done, adding new techniques to your repertoire can take you beyond the daily grind and bring your solo sex to new heights!

Here are five ways you can spice up the sex you’re having with yourself:

1. Explore Your Body Map

Masturbation, much like partnered sex, tends to be genitally focused, but guess what? Your entire body is covered with yummy erogenous zones. Self-love time is the perfect time to explore your body’s often over-looked sensitive spots.

2. Build Your Toy Chest (or Diversify It!)

This may seem like the obvious one, but trying out a sex toy for the first time, or trying a new type of sex toy, can bring new types of sensations to your solo play. If you’re new to toys, find something that’s versatile so you can use it in multiple ways while you’re figuring out what you like.

3. Make It Into a Full Body, Sensual Experience

Masturbation doesn’t have to only be about touch. Tantalize all of your senses to smell, taste, see, and hear your way to ecstatic pleasure.

Set a long playlist of music to set the mood you desire. Use candles, flowers, or fragrance sticks to set the mood with a pleasant scent. Bring some of your favorite treats to bed with you.

4. Kink It up a Notch

BDSM and kink play doesn’t always need to be a partnered activity! The truth is, with a little creativity and some planning, you can set up a really hot scene for yourself! While certain types of play are safer with a buddy, many of the toys and implements people use in partnered scenes can safely be used on yourself while you’re alone.

Feathers and ticklers, a wartenberg pinwheel, vampire gloves, and bunny floggers can be drawn along the skin for a variety of sensations. You can use a blindfold to intensify those feelings.

5. Bring In Back-up

While masturbation is usually thought of as sex for one, it can be even more exciting to masturbate with your partner! Mutual masturbation can be extremely hot, but it’s also a great non-verbal communication tool. Telling your partner what you enjoy sexually is both helpful for your partner to hear and an important part of getting your needs met. Having them actually see you do the things that feel best will help them to steal your moves and blow your mind the next time you have sex.