For Women: Don’t Wait For Marriage To Have A Life

Growing up I heard a lot young ladies say ” I want to get married, settle down and start my life.”

Wait, what?

What do they even mean by settle down and start a life. Yeah I can understand start living a life with a new person involved but start my life? What have you been doing? Also, what is settle down? You downwind settle down wanton after marriage, if anything you become extra unsettled because you’re even more busy thinking about husband and then kids come and in laws need you and your family reminds you how you’re still their daughter.

Although millennial don’t satyr settle down and start my life, they still talk about how they’d do this and that after they get married. “I’ll do this job until I am married then I’ll quit to start my business,” “I’ll do my masters when I am married,” “I’ll do blah and blah after marriage because then I can organise my life according to my Husband and children’s need”

Hold on lady, FOCUS because your life starts now. Do all that amazing things you have planned, learn the skills, quit the job and start a business, get that masters degree, take that trip, attend that seminar etc because marriage comes with having kids and having kids take you away from you. You identity become mother for a very long time. You would put almost everything on hold until they are in their pre teen years. Where do you think you’ll find the time to settle and start that life you dreamed of.

Now is the time to be great, to be that great you. Even if you have people to help you look after the kids, you have the most strongest support system, you’ll still function with limitation. Now that you’re free, you’re sitting pretty waiting for marriage when you should be achieving things that will make your partner wish they had met you since they were born.

Your life doesn’t start after marriage, it starts now. Stop waiting for marriage to give you opportunities. Marriages are not key that open doors or certification to start a business.